The How To Be a Geek Guide- You Know You Want To

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Everyone wants to be a geek these days, but some people don’t really know how to do it properly. Read this how to be a geek guide to geek out awesomely.

But, before I tell you how, let me just address the elephant in the room.

Isn’t geek a bad word? Yes and no. It used to be negative, and some neanderthals that are behind the times still use it as a slam.

But, as for the rest of the world, geek is now mainstream.

Thank you, Marvel.

Even with that being said, there’s still an art to geeking. For one thing, it takes fanning out to another level. It’s a passion verging on obsession.

And, that takes specific action.

So, here we go. Follow these steps, and you’ll be a geek in no time.

1. Immerse Yourself in Your Passion

Now, being extremely passionate about a particular subject is at the heart of being a geek.

According to the dictionary, a geek is an “enthusiast or expert” in a particular subject. For example, most geeks focus on comic books, movies, or TV shows. But, really, you can be a geek on pretty much anything.

When it comes to the fundamentals of being a geek, Simon Pegg nails it when he said, “Being a geek…means never having to play it cool about how much you like something. It’s basically a license to proudly emote on a somewhat childish level rather than behave like a supposed adult. Being a geek is extremely liberating.”

So, how do you start?

It starts with immersing yourself in your passion, whatever it may be.

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The Steps

To do this, you need to:

  • Binge out- whether it be reading your favorite author’s complete works or watching a whole TV series straight through
  • Research it on the internet- Read interviews, bios, reviews, and articles looking for unique factoids. Instead of reading, you can watch YouTube videos and get the same information. Or, you could read and watch.
  • Follow your passion on social media. Like their Facebook Page. Follow them on Twitter.

Why do you do this?

To know as much as possible about your passion.

For example, I watched a whole season of The Vampire Diaries in 2 days! That’s commitment.

Oh, and I own every book Tolkien ever wrote. I’m such a Tolkien geek that I based quite a bit of my work for my M.A. in English on Tolkien’s work.

2. Buy Merchandise

Immersing yourself in your passion isn’t enough, though.

No, you have to show your commitment by buying related merchandise. And, there is so much to buy!


For instance, you can wear your passion. That’s right.

Geeks love t-shirts!

For instance, I have 7 Game of Thrones t-shirts alone! Then, I have my literature related shirts like the Shakespeare t-shirt with his face and the caption, “I put the lit in literature.” Oh, don’t get me started on meme-based shirts. I love those!

But, don’t stop with just t-shirts. No, you need socks, hats, hoodies, and underwear. Yes, you can buy Harry Potter underwear.

Or, you could dress up like your favorite character. And, I’m not talking about just for Halloween. I put on my Hobbit feet when I watch The Hobbit or LOTR, which is at least once a year.

Other Collectibles

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In addition to clothing, you need to buy mugs, pillows, and blankets.

Incidentally, my daughter has a Hunger Games blanket. That’s right- She sleeps covered in Peeta.

If that’s not enough, there’re, figures, toys, and board games. Next, you need to buy merchandise specific to your passion like Gandalf’s staff, Hulk fists, or a lightsaber (and it better be Luke Skywalker’s and not Kylo Ren’s. Don’t even get me started).

You see, you’re looking for collectibles. As for me, my favorites are Funko Pop figures.

Also, you need to decorate your home with your passion.

Game of Thrones fan? You need to buy the Game of Thrones toilet attachment. That way, when you go to the bathroom, you’re sitting on the Iron Throne. Yeah, that’s a real thing.

But, you can’t just decorate your house. You need to include your vehicle and your office. When I was a teacher, the Elder Wand sat on my desk next to my Yoda mug with a map of Middle Earth in the background.

3. Talk It Up

Even after immersing yourself in your passion and buying merch, you’re still not done.

No, you need to talk up your passion.

Speak Geek

First of all, no one can call themselves a true geek without dropping references in conversations. And, don’t be a fake geek and preface it.

Nah, just throw it out there. Like using “Merlin’s Beard” instead of profanity. Or, you can use quotes.

Really, another true geek will catch the reference. It’s like a secret code. Those in the know will get it. And those that aren’t, well, they’re not cool enough anyways.

Truly, it’s the best inside joke. I was always doing that as a teacher. When an administrator walked in to observe, it would pass right over their head. But, my students knew because they knew my fandoms. Mostly, it was because it was something we shared. Other than that, it was because I talked about it so much.

Best of all? The administrator was impressed with how well my students paid attention. Not once did they know that was because I was dropping geek references all around them.

Turn To Social Media

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After talking about it all the time, mention it on social media. Cry out in frustration when your favorite character acts against the way you want during the show. Or, post memes.

Yes, meme! Amazingly, they’re mind readers. They always seem to say what I want to say. So, I just post it on social media.

And, what about Pinterest. Yeah, I have over 1,000 geek memes scattered throughout my boards. And, that’s considered a newbie when it comes to pinning geek memes.

Other Internet Opportunities

Thirdly, you can write a blog about your passion.

Even better, create YouTube videos.

Finally, if you happen to be single, join a geek dating site. What better way to find that special someone you can geek out with. Yeah, they exist. SoulGeek is a great example.

Who knows? You might end up with a Flash theme wedding. Just don’t end up with a Flash marriage.

4. Be Social

Once upon a time, geeks were known to be anti-social. But these days, that’s not the case. Geeks can be some of the most social people I know.

There’s just something about gathering with like-minded people. It’s almost cultish: a specific language, style of dress,  insider secrets, and knowledge base.

Try this and see if I’m not right- Show up to a geek convention out of geek dress and watch everyone stare. They know you don’t belong!

So, how can you be sociable as a geek?

How To Do It

You can

  • Join Facebook groups
  • Participate in forums-Just be warned- it can get ugly
  • Look for Meetups in your area
  • Participate in activities associated with your passion

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For example, did you know that there are local quidditch teams popping up all over the U.S.? It’s true. There’s even an organization to spear head this- U.S. Quidditch.

As another example, there are groups of women that gather in period attire to talk about how sexy Sam Heughan is (yeah, so not joining that group).

Basically, there are groups of all kinds for every kind of geekdom. You just need to find where they are.

Or, if there isn’t one in your area, start one.

You can begin with hosting watch parties in your home. If you do, make sure it’s dress required. And, branch out from there.

Go To Events

When it comes to events, geeks know how to do it right. Comic-Con International in San Diego is the biggest example. Yet, it’s not the only one.

There’s pop culture conventions all over the United States.

One of my favorites is Comicpalooza in Houston. It’s Texas’ largest entertainment convention. And, it’s awesome.

Not only can you meet your favorite stars from your favorite movies and shows, but you can experience the cutting edge of geek culture. Also, it’s a great place to buy merch. Most of all, it’s a home for geeks.

Unfortunately, conventions don’t happen everyday.

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Yet, you can fill in the wait time with LARPing. Or, you may want to attend book signings.

Even if you can’t find these events, you can hang out at geek-minded stores like Hot Topic, Books-A-Million, or Suncoast.

Personally, Hot Topic is an addiction for me and my daughters. Obviously, if you haven’t picked up on it by now, I’m a Harry Potter geek. And, I’m always finding great Harry Potter stuff at Hot Topic.

But even better than that, we find great pins. That’s right, my daughters and I are pin geeks.

My oldest daughter’s backpack is covered by so many pins, it looks like an armored turtle shell. And, Hot Topic never fails to deliver great pins.

Whatever stores are in your area, the point is that you’ll find other geeks there. And, you can strike up great conversations and make friends.

The How to Be a Geek Beginning

The steps in the how to be a geek guide are only the beginning. There’s so much you can do to be a geek that there’s not enough space on this post to include them all.

Being a geek isn’t only about what you do. It’s about who you are.

Ultimately, it’s about embracing who you are. It’s about loving yourself and letting everyone know.

It’s a lifestyle.

These steps are only the beginning.

So, start here and go geek.

If you enjoyed this post, please share it socially as a real geek would.

Best wishes from all of geekdom,

Chris (If you want to know more about who I am, read About Chris)

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10 thoughts on “The How To Be a Geek Guide- You Know You Want To

  1. Hi Chris, really enjoyed reading your post AND I learned new things.
    Until now I used the word Geek only in relation to computer “geeks”.
    One question remains. You state in your post the following “According to the dictionary, a geek is an “enthusiast or expert” in a particular subject”. Reading through you are quite the geek in different subjects – so how do you call someone like that?
    Looking forward reading you in the future.
    Kind regards, Marc

    1. Well, that’s easy (and not so easy). Basically, I’m a fantasy geek. That is to say I love the fantasy genre, in books, TV, and movies. Now, here comes the hard part. Fantasy covers so much like fairy tales, the paranormal (vampires, ghosts, werewolves, etc), epic/ high fantasy (Lord of The Rings, Game of Thrones), Urban fantasy, etc. And, before anyone argues that fantasy is predominantly about magic, I base my classifications on Tolkien’s view of fae lore (ie. fantasy), and that it does predominantly have magic. But, it can also have supernatural beings. In other words monsters like vampires. Also, in my opinion, Star Wars contains some fantasy elements- hello- The Force. So, thus my love of Star Wars.

      So, to sum up, I’m really, really, really into fantasy. Really, I’m a fantasy geek with a few other geekdoms thrown in. I’m just more enthusiastic about fantasy, but still love memes and comics.

  2. Hi, this was a very interesting post. I enjoyed reading it and I learned a lot more about geeks. And I agree, what could be cooler than to be childishly enthusiastic about a topic while skipping being the grown up part? Being a grown up is overrated anyway.
    I had no idea that there are quidditch teams in the US! I wonder how they play it … I need to check that out 🙂

    1. They play quiidditch by running around with a broomstick between their legs. And, a person is the golden snitch. Actually, there’s a college quidditch world cup. That’s right, quidditch is an intramural sport. Just goes to show how popular geeks are now. We’re taking over the world!

  3. Hello,
    It’s a very interesting post, so informative, I learned a lot about geek, actually I didn’t know what’s the difference between the geek and nerd before reading your post, also you provide a step-by-step guide clearly to a person who wants to be a geek, Thank you for writing this very thorough post, it’s extremely helpful.

    1. Thanks. Actually, my advice to anyone is be yourself no matter what. And, ultimately, that’s the heart of a geek. Truly loving what your passion and embracing it. It’s being comfortable in your own skin. It just quicks it up a notch. I’m most comfortable when I’m in one of my favorite t-shirts. Sure, I can dress up when it calls for it, but I’m still going to be the same me on the inside and that’s what matter.

  4. I love the article, Chris!

    As a longtime geek myself (mainly video games and anime) it’s always nice to see others pop up around the woodwork that is the internet. I think a lot of mainstream pop culture has given the more “geeky” types a platform and confidence to express themselves which is great.

    I started a YouTube channel just the other day (thegreatcanadiangamer0) for the purpose of playing classic games which I never thought I would have the guts to do. It’s a good time to express yourself!

    It has also spawned a lot of fakes too.

    Maybe for one of your future bits, you could write about the more Otaku side of geekdom? There’s always a large audience for Asian geek hobbies too.

    All the best,

    1. Thanks. Yeah, I want to give YouTube a go after I get more posts going here. I love the classics, too! And, by classic I mean first generation gaming that came out when I was a kid. I so agree with you on “fake” geeks. I guess they’re cashing on the popularity. But, you can tell the real from the fake. They just don’t speak geek right. When I was a kid, geeking out was uncool, but now everyone does it. I’ve read some posts where longtime geeks are bashing this rise in geek culture. But, I embrace it if it’s true geeking. The more the merrier I say.

  5. Yes, back in the day we geeks kept to the shadows.

    It was (mostly) a secret that I played Dungeons and Dragons with my “geek” friends, and wouldn’t tell my “cool” friends. What idiocy!

    I love the subtle humor in your post, but also the call to everyone to truly celebrate who they are!

    How do you feel about Magic, The Gathering? We have local groups that play. One of my sons is in to it. I think it’s a great social platform while being a cool game at the same time.

    1. D&D and Magic- those bring back memories. Magic came out in 1993. I was a junior in high school! And, yes, I played. Of course, I love Magic. It’s fantasy. But, seriously, it’s also a collector’s gold mine. Some of those cards have a high value on them. Even more valuable is the opportunity to get together and geek out over something you love.

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